When my first marriage came to an end, I was extremely sad and depressed. After my divorce, I spent years reliving my past. The memories of suffering kept coming back to me and prevented me from enjoying the present. The feeling of loneliness and abandonment were heavy in my heart. I was burdened by the mindset that my future would be dismal, and I was full of worry and anxiety.

Deep in my heart, I truly wanted to have a loving partner and a happy marital life. I couldn’t make my dream come true for a long time, until I learned the most important lesson of my life. The lesson that brought me enlightenment was simply this: We do not have any power to change our past or create our future. All our power lies in this present moment. The dominant emotions and feelings that we have in the present moment attract similar kinds of energy to manifest in our lives. If we have strong memories of past failures, then our dominant inner vibrations will bring us similar kinds of situations in our life. That is why some people experience patterns of dysfunctional relationships repeatedly.

With meditation, and hard work, I learned necessary healing techniques that eventually attracted the wonderful and supportive energy of a loving and caring man. Now I am not only very happily married, but my daughter also has a wonderful father. I established a happy marriage because I cleared all the negative feelings and emotions from my past that were polluting my thoughts. Since then, as a therapist, I have been working with hundreds of men and women to help them let go of their misfortunes, and develop skills that attract true love. In order to be in the present moment, daily practice of meditation helps to bring your awareness back to your infinite potential and your true wholeness.

While practicing to become loving, use meditation as a tool. You can even do meditation when your conscious mind goes to sleep, because still your sub-conscious mind listening to the meditation track. Meditation will assist you in finding truly your inner state of self love. As you meditate, your busy mind becomes still, and develop inner peace, you become aware of your calm center. In this center you will find true love, joy, and peace. As you become radiant with self love, joy and peace, it will be easy for you to attract similar kind of a partner – your true love.

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When was the last time you ‘acted’? I’m not talking about ‘taking’ action or ‘doing’ something. I’m talking about not being authentic.

There’s a quote by writer Jean Giraudoux that has always made me laugh: “The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you’ve got it made.” The sad thing is that many people live their lives, especially their professional lives, as if that’s something to be proud of.

What motivates someone to choose ‘performing’ over being ‘present’? Most of the time, it’s sheer terror. There are few things that can make you feel more vulnerable than revealing yourself to another person. Ironically, it’s that vulnerability that creates powerful a powerful connection.

When you’re in front of an audience, whether it’s one person or a stadium full of people, each person is having a one-on-one experience with you. We don’t listen as a group. We listen, process information and connect one individual to another. Why would you not want that moment of communication to be all it can be?

Being ‘present’ means tuning in to what your audience wants and needs. Who are they? What brought them into the room? What are they looking for? What’s their biggest problem?

When you focus on ‘them’ rather than on your ‘performance’, the need to perform fades away. When you are ‘present’ you are connected. You’re serving. It’s hard to put on an act when you’re giving. Giving makes most people feel good. An audience picks up on that energy.

It takes a lot of effort to remember your ‘act’. Do you have that much time to waste?

No one said it better than the late Steve Jobs:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma- which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Be real with yourself, first. If you really pay attention, you can tell when someone is insincere. Do you feel honored by that? Or, do you feel as if your intelligence has been insulted? If you can tell with them, they can tell with you. Even if they can’t, you know the truth. You know the difference. You know if you’re authentic. You know if you’re present or performing.

When YOU show up, who shows up?

©2012 Annetta Wilson Media Training and Success Coaching. All rights reserved.

About the Author

Annetta Wilson is a business strategist specializing in media training and presentation skills coaching. A talent coach for CNN, she has also coached for Walt Disney World. She makes it easier for high-profile individuals and teams to communicate more powerfully. Annetta is an award-winning journalist with more than 30 years experience in the broadcast industry, a Certified Trainer and a Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst.

If you are aspiring to be the best keynote speaker in the whole wide world and are interested in finding new ways in improving the quality of your speeches then it is important to do more research in order to discover what works and what’s not. One way to determine whether one of your techniques is working or not is to use it in one of your presentation and then see the reaction of the audience. If the audience doesn’t understand the points you want to convey then the technique is not that good.

Since your main indicator of whether a particular technique works or not is based mainly on the audience’s feedback then it will be a good idea to find a way of collecting those feedback whenever you do any presentation. So, what you can do is to give away a small card where a person can write their thoughts with regards to your performance. You can then hand these cards after your speeches. Or much better, ask one of your close friends and ask them a favor of collecting those feedback in any way that they can think of.

Of course, one of the best ways in crafting the best speeches in any presentation is to prepare it many days before the actual date of presentation. Since if you ever read your initial draft, you will likely notice something that needs to be change and the more you read it, the more you can improve it. This technique is highly recommended if you are just starting out and it is still recommended even if you already an expert. Sleep and rest between the edits of the drafts can provide the brain of new ideas, which you can then incorporate into the revisions.

Lastly, it is important to take note that all of those mentioned above are best implemented as soon as it is possible. And aside from all of those already mentioned, you can also improve a keynote speaker’s presentation by doing a comprehensive research with regards to the topic. Researching will provide you all the details you will need in order to craft the best speeches that has ever been crafted. Knowing what your audience wants and what makes them vulnerable will allow you to reach for their core beliefs and only through shattering of these core beliefs will allow you to influence them about something regardless whether they agree with it right now or not.

Do I really have to rehearse my presentation? I kind of know it. I’m getting a bit bored with the topic. Couldn’t I just skip that?

No. No, you can’t just skip that. Trust me, all those words sound a whole lot different in front of a friend or even in front of the mirror.

Rehearsing in front of a friend is best because you can ask questions. The one question not to ask is “Did you like it?” Of course they are going to say “Yes.”

A true friend will say “Yes, but…”. Better you should ask questions that will get you some helpful answers. Try these:

Was there anything you did not understand?

Did it flow well or was there a place it seemed to jump ahead?

How can I strengthen my opening and closing?

What do you think my basic message was? How could I make it clearer?

I’m not sure about this part. What would make it better?

If you cannot get a friend to listen to the presentation, then a mirror will have to do. Can you ask some of those questions of yourself? This is time for your critical, analytical self to step forward and be heard. This is not the time for “I’m sure it will be fine.”

There is nothing worse for a presenter than to realize halfway through an important presentation that he or she is way off track, that people are yawning or looking puzzled. Rehearsal time is when you prevent this.

If you are using a mirror watch your facial expressions. Are you deadpan or is your face showing interest and pleasure in your topic? Your own interest and pleasure transmits to the audience; they will respond to what they see.

At the same time, are you still or moving around? Are you having to look at your notes a lot? Notes can be a crutch (just as PowerPoint can be a crutch). If you really feel you need notes try putting them on the podium and just glancing at them. Notes are an interference in the interaction between you and your audience.

As you rehearse, set a timer so you know how long your speech is. Audiences hate a speaker who goes over their allotted time, even if they enjoy the speech. Work on your timing so that you finish shortly before the time allotted to you. You can use this for question and answer time, but your audience will feel they’ve been given a bonus if they get out for lunch a few minutes early.